Comments on: Boundary Violations – Moving Towards Forgiveness http://barbthelifecoach.com/2010/04/boundary-violations-moving-towards-forgiveness/ Abundant Living through the Law of Attraction Fri, 21 May 2010 06:49:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: EDD http://barbthelifecoach.com/2010/04/boundary-violations-moving-towards-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-380 EDD Thu, 06 May 2010 15:29:56 +0000 http://barbthelifecoach.com/?p=86#comment-380 I think boundary violations that leave you feeling chumpy or enabling is a classic problem. Mother Theresas diary goes on and on about how God racked her with a long painful death for enabling prostitutes and winos. Its called succor becuase of sugar, as in sugar-coating a bad situation where there is no solution, unless you call looking the other way a solution. Thats my take on why Mother Theresa died rueful. So did Jesus for that matter. I think boundary violations that leave you feeling chumpy or enabling is a classic problem.

Mother Theresas diary goes on and on about how God racked her with a long painful death for enabling prostitutes and winos.

Its called succor becuase of sugar, as in sugar-coating a bad situation where there is no solution, unless you call looking the other way a solution. Thats my take on why Mother Theresa died rueful. So did Jesus for that matter.

]]> By: EDD http://barbthelifecoach.com/2010/04/boundary-violations-moving-towards-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-376 EDD Wed, 05 May 2010 21:52:25 +0000 http://barbthelifecoach.com/?p=86#comment-376 Sometimes expressing empathy in any meaningful way leaves me feeling like a chump. Sometimes expressing empathy in any meaningful way leaves me feeling like a chump.

]]> By: Certified Nursing Assistant http://barbthelifecoach.com/2010/04/boundary-violations-moving-towards-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-364 Certified Nursing Assistant Sun, 02 May 2010 04:48:04 +0000 http://barbthelifecoach.com/?p=86#comment-364 nice post. thanks. nice post. thanks.

]]> By: jim hankinson http://barbthelifecoach.com/2010/04/boundary-violations-moving-towards-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-341 jim hankinson Tue, 27 Apr 2010 16:22:57 +0000 http://barbthelifecoach.com/?p=86#comment-341 I agree with almost all of this. I do think though that sometimes we are motivated not to say 'no' through fear of not being a good enough person; although this is probably related to the other fears you mention. Guilt is another motivator too (feeling responsible for the break-up, not wanting to let the kids down, etc.). But I do agree that fear is the big instigator of self-defeating behavior. Some fears are rational; some are even helpful. Most are not. I agree with almost all of this. I do think though that sometimes we are motivated not to say ‘no’ through fear of not being a good enough person; although this is probably related to the other fears you mention. Guilt is another motivator too (feeling responsible for the break-up, not wanting to let the kids down, etc.). But I do agree that fear is the big instigator of self-defeating behavior. Some fears are rational; some are even helpful. Most are not.

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